have you ever met?

[hoops]

Have you ever met someone who just seem to find everything about you to be less than enjoyable. they seem to find ways to tear down everything you hold dear and everything that is real to you? I love this person very much and have devoted much of my time to making sure his life is well lived. He HAS given me a lot over the years and i know i wouldn't be here without him, sometimes i wonder if he'd care. I wrote this a few years ago after a very trying time at trying to build our relationship into something more positive. and today he reinforced how much it hurts to love him sometimes.

Spew! Vomit! Bile!
Vile! Vile! Vile!
Let the
sticks and stones
break my bones
just
keep your words
to yourself!

Keep your mouth shut
till your mind
can open up
till your soul
glows bright
with the light
of the Master.

Heart of stone
leave me alone
till loves fire
melts you down
then burns me
at the stake.

don't touch me
with the breath
that passes
through your lips
Bite off
my ears instead.
Beat me dead!
Beat me dead
just don't let
your poison language
come inside my head.

Hate me
with a passion
with
the devil's anger
and hell's disease.
just don't love me
even simply
and say those things to me.



sorry to pout
peace
hoops

[Eva]

Hoops,

I don't mean to meddle in your life, but what I see worries me. Isn't it a good idea to stay away from a person who hurts you so much? I know things are usually more complicated than what firsts meets the eye. But I do know that it is never good for a persoon to allow another person to hurt them like this.

Eva

[indy]

Dear Hoops,
One of the best things I think you can do with your hurt and anger is to write it all out. Every little tiny bit. Then write it out again. Do that until it is out of you. Get rid of the poison and get rid of the burden.
I am sorry that you have been hurt so deeply.
(((HOOPS)))

indy

[RedjackRyan]

Wow hoops..I know what that feels like and all i can tell you is no one is worth that much hurt. If you need a shoulder, or just want to talk. i'm here for ya.

<huggggggggggg>

[Dee]

I love this person very much and have devoted much of my time to making sure his life is well lived. He HAS given me a lot over the years and i know i wouldn't be here without him, sometimes i wonder if he'd care.

Hoops,

Seems like your friend is asking you for a lot. No friendship/love relationship is worth sacrificing yourself for. You seem to feel some sense of obligation to this guy, even as you wonder if he'd even care.

In my own life I've learned there are people who give life, and those who take it from you. Frankly, I don't give myself over to them. I learned the skill of disconnecting from poison people early on in life, and I'm glad I did. No one has the right to cause you such misery. Put your own needs first in this situation, Hoops. You deserve so much more in return for your giving nature.

(((hug)))

[Des]

We are all responsible for our own decisions. Where life finds us is simply where we have chosen to reside in the consequence of our own actions of choosing.

If someone has hurt us in one way or another, it is because we have allowed them to hurt us in that way. The person who has hurt us, has also hurt themselves by allowing to show hurt to another being. It is very vicious and ongoing circle, until we realise that if all is not accepted then all will be never be cured.

Everyone has been hurt at some time or another either physically or emotionally. We either choose to accept that it happened and move on with our lives, or we hang on to it for all the bitterness that time allows.

Staying in an unhealthy relationship is a lot braver than moving out of one and moving on with your life. Choose the simple option!

I love this person very much and have devoted much of my time to making sure his life is well lived. He HAS given me a lot over the years and i know i wouldn't be here without him, sometimes i wonder if he'd care.

Nobody owes anything to anyone else in making sure someone’s life is well lived. If this person’s live was well lived, then much better they make sure they are achieving this themselves as opposed to reliance on another being.

You wouldn’t be here without him, as you would be elsewhere.

Sorry to be so frank, my words are meant in an emotionless kind of way and shouldn’t be taking out of context in feeling.

[Randy & Betty in Pa]

Hoops,

Just know that around here your well loved and respected... should you need a shoulder or a friend... You got a board full here... just mumble the word... We even have Redjack The compassionate frog!!!!!! Always good for a grin, hug or tear.... Now quit your life of grand theft auto.... Make a deal and blame Sister Rose :rolleyes:

Best to you

R. from Pa

[Oak Kitten]

Hoops,

I am sorry you are in such a difficult situation, but you can take control. If you stay with this person who hurts you incessantly, you are sending him the message that you have no sense of self-worth. Blaming him for not reciprocating your feelings, may make you feel good temporarily by labeling him as a no good sh*t, but it only exacerbates matters, and probably generates more hostility from him. You need to take control of your emotional life, and find happiness within yourself. People who find happiness within themselves are usually the most desirable to others become like magnets because they are at peace and generate a sense of joy.

I truly hope you will find the inner resources to help you deal with this situation.

All the best,
Oak

[Margay]

Hoops,

If you can feel half as powerful as your poetry is...
It sends shivers down my spine.
Words can do so much. I have met him, but I am okay now, for now, I hope you will be too.

Margay

[hoops]

But this is my Father!

[Margay]

But this is my Father!

I figured as much...

That makes it really hard. Remember your power, remember he's not god.
I hope you can keep your heart safe.

Margay

[Rikki]

Well obviously, you do stand a chance. Separate yourself if you can.

[Dee]

But this is my Father!
Nonetheless, Hoops, I must reiterate:

In my own life I've learned there are people who give life, and those who take it from you. Frankly, I don't give myself over to them. I learned the skill of disconnecting from poison people early on in life, and I'm glad I did. No one has the right to cause you such misery.

Sometimes we just have to love from a safe distance.

[Oak Kitten]

Margay is right, the fact that this is your father makes it especially hard, but Dee is also right, if you allow him to continue to have this destructive hold on you, you are only hurting yourself, and you are not helping him, either. He has to learn that there are consequences to his behavior. Don't make yourself responsible for his dysfunctional behavior. You have a right to your own happiness, and he is not entitled to making you the outlet for his abuse.

Be strong, we want you to be happy.
Oak

[GodSistah]

Hoops, be strong and be blessed!
There's nothing that you and God can't get through together! :)

~Andrea~